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Your Inner Critic is Just a Mean Girl/Douchebag

 Your Inner Critic is Just a Mean Girl/Douchebag If you struggle with your inner critic and want stop being mean to yourself,  it can be helpful to know what you are dealing with. As per the title says, it's just a mean girl/douchebag voice from high-school. In order to learn how to respond to it, first you have to understand what your inner critic is and what it does.                                                                                                                   Your inner critic is not a reflection of reality .    It's a perspective of yourself that you've indoctrinated as a result of destructive life experiences, often times early life experiences and either direct or indirect negative treatment or attitudes, i.e. abuse, bullying (I hate this word, it's still abuse), poor frames of reference in family members. Of course there are a myriad of additional reasons, reasons that would need to be explored in therapy.  Understand what it does Blames you fo
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